Couples Therapy
Reconnect, Heal, and Strengthen Your Bond with Attachment‑informed Support
For couples who feel stuck, distant, or unsure where to go next…couples therapy can help you get back on the same team.
Every relationship has seasons of closeness and distance, connection and conflict. But when disconnection becomes the norm—or arguments keep circling without resolution—it can leave you feeling more like roommates than partners.
If you’re reading this, it means you care and you’re committed to change and growth.
My approach to working with couples:
I integrate evidence-based, trauma-informed methods rooted in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment principles. I also incorporate nervous system regulation practices — like grounding and calm communication techniques to support regulation during conflict or tension.
My work is designed to transform reactive cycles into safe, secure emotional connection.
Most couples get caught in reactive cycles—like shutting down, blaming, fixing, or pulling away—not because they don’t care, but because those responses feel safer.
I help couples understand the patterns that are keeping them stuck.
Instead of just learning how to communicate better, we go deeper—looking at what’s driving the disconnection, frustration, or withdrawal. Then, together, you can build new ways of relating that feel more connected and supportive.
My approach is:
Collaborative: I’m here to support both partners while working together on the same team — your relationship
Paced and attuned: We go at a speed that feels manageable for both people. No one gets pushed before they’re ready.
Practical and reflective: You’ll learn tools for regulation, communication, and repair that you can actually use in real life.
Common reasons couples come to therapy:
You’re having the same argument over and over without resolution
Communication feels difficult, tense, or shut down
There’s been a loss of trust—whether from betrayal, secrecy, or broken promises
You feel emotionally distant or misunderstood
You want to improve your connection, intimacy, or ability to navigate stress together
Your traumatic past relational experiences keep showing up in the presenting—disrupting security and stability in your relationship
Whether you're navigating a specific rupture or just feel like something is "off," couples therapy offers a place to slow down and figure out what’s really going on underneath the surface.
The Work Done in Couples Therapy:
1. Build Safety & Trust
We begin by mapping the cycles that keep you both stuck—emotional shutdowns, blame loops, feeling unheard. I help guide you toward deeper understanding and create a safe space for both voices to be heard.
2. Original Dynamics, Attachment Wounds & Patterns
We explore how early relational experiences and attachment wounds shape present-day reactivity—such as fear of abandonment, shame, or hyper-independence.
3. Communication, Regulation & Reparative Connection
Employing nervous system and communication practices, you’ll develop the ability to regulate under stress, listen responsively, and repair ruptures rather than escalate them. The goal: to create emotionally corrective experiences within your relationship.
4. Re-engagement & Long-Term Resilience
As you build new patterns—like securing emotional attunement or repairing connection—you become resilient in times of conflict, stress, or life transitions. When the relationship encounters uncertainty again, you’ll have the capacity to respond differently.
Outcomes You Can Expect:
Increased emotional safety—so you can communicate without conflict spirals
Repaired trust, rebuilt intimacy, and re-established mutual respect
Feeling equipped to navigate stressors or challenges as a unified team
Intimacy and connection in every day life, even when conflict comes up again
Is Couples Therapy Right for You?
Therapy can be beneficial at any stage—whether you’re exploring early warning signs or seeking deeper healing after major ruptures.
It’s not about being perfect—it’s about being present
Couples therapy isn’t about assigning blame or fixing each other. It’s about learning how to respond to each other with curiosity, clarity, and care—even in the hard moments. You don’t need to have it all figured out before coming to therapy. You just need to be willing to look at things together—with support.
If you’re ready to feel more connected, seen, and supported in your relationship, I’d be honored to work with you.