Attachment Therapy for Relational Stress
Do you find yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships—shutting down, people-pleasing, or feeling like you're “too much” or “not enough”? Maybe you avoid conflict, feel overly responsible for others, or stay busy to avoid anxiety.
Most of us want meaningful, balanced relationships. We’re not aiming for perfection, but we want to feel secure, connected, understood, and valued by the people we care about. That’s not unrealistic—it’s deeply human.
Whether you're experiencing distance, conflict, anxiety, or trust issues — you're not alone. Many people begin therapy feeling stuck in patterns that leave them feeling unheard, disconnected, or uncertain in relationships.
Relationships naturally have highs and lows. There are “cloud nine” seasons, and there are days where disconnection or tension sets in. But when relational stress becomes a constant—when it starts to affect your sense of self, your energy, or your peace of mind—it may be time to pause and become curious
What we often mean when we say we want "healthy" relationships is that we want to feel seen, heard, loved, and safe. We want communication that works. We want to know we matter—to others, and to ourselves.
As a therapist, I help people create fulfilling relationships by first supporting them in building those same qualities within. Not in a cliché “you have to love yourself first” way—but in a grounded, science-backed way through something called Attachment Theory.
What is Attachment Theory?
Attachment describes how we’ve learned to relate, respond, and connect with others based on past experiences—especially those from childhood. These early patterns shape how we view ourselves and what we expect from others, often without us realizing it.
Even if you didn’t experience what you’d call “trauma,” confusing or inconsistent relationships from the past may have left behind unconscious beliefs like:
“I have to prove my worth to be loved.”
“People will leave if I show too much.”
“I can’t count on anyone but myself.”
You might feel this show up as:
Anxiety about your place in a relationship
Emotional shutdown or fear of vulnerability
Difficulty expressing your needs
Constant overthinking or spiraling thoughts
Feeling consumed by a need to be “enough”
Why this approach works
Underneath recurring conflict is often a nervous system that learned to survive—not connect. By tuning into how attachment history shapes your relational responses, this approach helps you choose connection instead of reaction. Therapy becomes a space for repair, not pressure—where healing creates real change.
What we do in therapy
I use a learning-based, experiential approach grounded in Attachment Theory. Together, we explore not just your conscious thoughts—but the hidden patterns your nervous system holds onto. These are the parts of your story that live in your body, not just your mind.
By gently surfacing those patterns, we uncover:
How your nervous system responds to stress and closeness
What relational dynamics activate old coping mechanisms
Why certain patterns keep repeating, even when you know they aren’t working
From there, we can start to build something new: trust in yourself, emotional security, healthier boundaries, and more nourishing relationships.
Why this matters
Understanding your attachment patterns doesn’t mean blaming yourself or others. It means gaining clarity and compassion—for who you are, how you got here, and who you want to become.
Think of it like this: if you dropped five different dogs off at the same doggy daycare, each one would respond to the environment in a unique way—based on their temperament, background, and needs.
Attachment work helps us understand our own responses in the world of relationships. And from there, we can start to choose instead of react.