Perfectionism & Over-Achievement Stress
Always pushing, always performing — and yet, never quite feeling like it’s enough?
If you find yourself constantly striving to do more, be better, and meet impossibly high standards — you’re not alone. For many high-achievers and perfectionists, success can be both deeply fulfilling and incredibly exhausting.
You may genuinely enjoy setting goals and achieving them. But somewhere along the way, your accomplishments stop feeling satisfying — because your mind is already racing toward the next thing. Even after doing so much, it never feels like enough.
Perfectionism can be a powerful motivator, but it often comes with an inner dialogue that sounds like:
“I need to do more.”
“If I’m not striving towards success, then I must be failing.”
“My value is dependent on my accomplishments.”
Over time, this cycle leads to stress, self-criticism, anxiety, burnout — and a deep sense of disconnection from yourself.
There may be a reason you operate this way — and therapy can help you find it.
In our work together, we explore what’s underneath the drive to achieve.
As oftentimes perfectionism is rooted in something much deeper, like:
A fear of failure
A belief that love or worth must be earned
Early experiences of competition, comparison, or feeling invisible
High expectations (from others or yourself) that shaped how you define success
Once we uncover the “why,” we gently begin to challenge it. You’ll learn how to hold space for self-compassion, regulate perfectionistic tendencies, and build a healthier relationship with productivity — one where your worth isn’t determined by your output.
This isn’t about giving up your ambition…
My goal is not to take away your drive, your goals, or the part of you that enjoys achieving. Rather, it’s to help you build just as much confidence in yourself when you’re not striving towards success, as you are when you’re accomplishing a goal.
I want success and achievement to be YOUR choice, not something that HAS to occur in order for you to be valuable…because I know how easy it is to miss out on the present when you’re always chasing after the “next thing.”
My goal is to help you:
Feel confident and grounded even when you're not performing
Learn when it’s okay to pause — and actually feel okay doing so
Create a life where success is something you choose, not something you must chase to feel valuable
Therapy can help you build a version of success that includes rest, self-trust, and presence — not just pressure and perfection. Together, we’ll work to untangle what’s driving the need to prove yourself and find a rhythm that supports both your ambition and your well-being.
You get the choice to decide when enough is enough — that way you can take much needed breaks for yourself, and still have the drive to come back and chase your dreams on your terms.