Perfectionists + Over-Achievers

Do you find yourself constantly seeking to succeed, achieve, and be “perfect” in every way? I get it. The need to strive and be successful can be something us “perfectionists” and “over-achievers” love, but at the same time it may also feel like we’ve set this impossible standard for ourselves. It’s almost the ideal game of “win-lose”…because, even though the accomplishments feel great, your brain instantly looks for “what’s next,” making your brain think your latest success wasn’t enough.

Always looking towards the next success means our head is always in the future, and never in the present. It can be exhausting, and you might not even realize the extent of the fatigue.

It’s really hard being an over-achiever. Not being perfect or achieving your own goals (and those of others) makes it feel like you’re a failure…or that you’re not good enough. EVEN when you’ve already done SO much.

When working with perfectionists and over-achievers, I help them understand what’s hidden deep below, fueling those tendencies. Sometimes it’s the fear of failure or not being good enough, other times it can rooted in something learned. Whatever it may be, my clients are going to find the “why.” Once the why is found, that’s when we can gently challenge it and start learning new perspectives and more healthier, helpful behaviors so that perfectionism and achievement doesn’t run your life.

You may be thinking, “Why would I want that? I like being successful?” Trust me, me too. I’ve been this way, too! Sometimes I still am, but, I’ve also learned that no matter how good achievement feels, as long as my head is in that space, I’m missing out on what’s in the present.

My goal is never to take away the part of you that loves being successful. Rather, it’s to help you build just as much confidence in yourself when you’re not fixated on something new to accomplish, as you are when doing so. I want success and achievement to be YOUR choice, not something that HAS to occur in order for you to be valuable.

I want to give you the choice to choose when enough is enough, when you need a break, or just want to settle into the present for a bit. Together, we will work through whatever is pushing out the need to achieve and find a balance between success and slowness.