Attachment Theory
Attachment is the way we learn to connect, protect ourselves, and relate to others. These patterns often form early in life and quietly shape how we experience relationships as adults: how safe we feel, how we handle conflict, and how we respond to closeness.
If early relationships felt inconsistent, confusing, or emotionally unsafe, your nervous system learned ways to cope. Those strategies once helped you get through difficult moments, but over time, they can make relationships feel hard, exhausting, or overwhelming.
You might notice this showing up as:
Anxiety in relationships
Fear of being too much or not enough
Difficulty expressing needs
Overthinking interactions
Pulling away or shutting down during conflict
Feeling disconnected even when you want closeness
None of this means something is wrong with you. These are learned responses, not personal flaws, and attachment-focused therapy helps you understand why certain patterns show up, so you can begin to respond differently.
Instead of feeling caught in automatic reactions, you start to notice what’s happening, and then gain the freedom to choose your response.
Therapy offers you a space to slow down, make sense of your experiences, and build new ways of relating that feel safer and more aligned with who you are now. Where you’re able to shift out of survival mode and into a greater sense of calm, clarity, and choice.
What You Begin to Notice
As therapy progresses, many clients experience:
A clearer understanding of their emotions and reactions
Less anxiety and reactivity in relationships
More confidence expressing needs and boundaries
A stronger sense of emotional safety
Deeper, more fulfilling connections
Increased trust in themselves and their instincts
Change doesn’t happen all at once, but it happens gradually through awareness, compassion, and practice.
What This Looks Like in Therapy
As a therapist, I use Attachment Theory to help people create fulfilling relationships by supporting them in building the essential qualities necessary for healthy relationships: trust, empathy, accountability, openness, and unconditional love…both in yourself, and towards others.
In our work, I focus on truly understanding you and your story. We explore patterns with curiosity rather than judgment, at a pace that feels supportive and manageable.
Together, we:
Identify what feels unsafe or familiar to your nervous system
Understand where those patterns came from
Practice responding with intention instead of habit
Build a stronger sense of safety within yourself and your relationships
This work isn’t about blaming the past or striving for perfection. It’s about creating understanding, flexibility, and connection—starting from the inside out.
Is This the Right Fit?
Attachment-focused therapy may be helpful if you:
Feel stuck in repeating relationship patterns
Want deeper, more secure connections
Struggle with anxiety, emotional shutdown, or self-criticism
Sense that something in your relationships needs to shift
If this resonates, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Therapy can be a supportive place to understand yourself more deeply and move toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Get started here.